Becoming a parent, as I'm sure many people have said, is the most life-changing experience you'll ever go through, and one which pretty much happens within a few minutes!
I wanted to offer a little advice on becoming a parent, but realised everyone’s take on parenting is completely different, so I asked some mummies and daddies ‘‘What advice would you give to your former-before-children-self?’’ and their contributions are at the end of this post!
So to start, I have a few pieces to share..
You’ll feel emotional over everything in the first few days/weeks – But that’s ok!
I remember arriving home with Clark, exhausted and emotional. I sat down on the sofa, looked at my husband and said 'now what?' We now had a purpose and a responsibility to nurture and take care of the most smallest blessing in the world! How on earth were we going to do this when we can't even keep a plant alive? But the thing is you do. You, yourself do so much growing and learning in the first days, weeks, months of becoming a parent, and I'm still learning things now even when Clark's almost 3.
You will find yourself crying at random intervals for no apparent reason. It could be on a day your baby does something new, or you're so proud of how high your washing pile is, or something really random like how cute a tiny sock is (Yes, this can happen!)
Your labour plan may go out of the window…
I’m not going to go into too much detail about my labours as every labour is different, but I will say I personally believe it's better to go in with an open mind. If you have a birth plan be prepared that it may not go to plan as there are so many factors which can contribute to how your labour goes. For instance, I was always against an epidural, no no no! But I had one.. With both boys. Turns out my pain threshold is much lower than I thought! Should have guessed that when I had my ears pierced and had to remove them...twice!
Everyone is different!
Don’t compare yourself to others or doubt yourself. Because I had an epidural doesn't mean that I'm weaker than a mum who didn't, just because you may have a caesarean, doesn't make you any weaker than a mum who didn't. The end result is what matters, you did it! You gave life to your baby, however easy or hard it was, and whatever the circumstances, you did it. So always remember you got this mama!
Daddies, your partner's attention will be completely diverted
So please don't panic! It doesn't mean she loves you any less, or that she's forgotten about you, her priorities have changed. It will be strange as you've been consumed by each other for so long and now her attention is focussed on your baby, but there's nothing to get the 'ump' about. When you're feeling low let her know, the chances are she hasn't even realised (in a nice way!) Make time for date nights, buy little gifts, don't let it drift you apart. She is being the mother to your child :)
I will add here that under no circumstances is the willy dance ever acceptable pre or post children. If she's in an emotional place, be warned, she will cut it off.
You'll have rubbish days, and days when you feel on top of the world, it's a rollercoaster, but not a uhoh I'm gonna vomit kinda coaster, an amazing one! Enjoy it!
So here’s what other mummies and daddies wanted to contribute to 'What advice would you give to your former-before-children-self?’ If you click the first picture it'll allow you to scroll through!
Let me know your thoughts!
P.S I haven't edited the text below in anyway :)